by effataigus » Wed Oct 26, 2011 10:19 am
I'm sorry to hear that your mother isn't well, Xin.
In difficult times I often find myself reflecting on this excerpt from a letter Lincoln sent to a woman who had just lost her father (it was then a private letter if you prefer to avoid reading private things that have only since become public record):
"It is with deep grief that I learn of the death of your kind and brave Father; and, especially, that it is affecting your young heart beyond what is common in such cases. In this sad world of ours, sorrow comes to all; and, to the young, it comes with bitterest agony, because it takes them unawares. The older have learned to ever expect it. I am anxious to afford some alleviation of your present distress. Perfect relief is not possible, except with time. You can not now realize that you will ever feel better. Is not this so? And yet it is a mistake. You are sure to be happy again. To know this, which is certainly true, will make you some less miserable now. I have had experience enough to know what I say; and you need only to believe it, to feel better at once. The memory of your dear Father, instead of an agony, will yet be a sad sweet feeling in your heart, of a purer and holier sort than you have known before."
Best wishes for you and your mother,
-A grateful fan of your work
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